When I was very young, I remember driving to go see my grandparents that lived a couple hours away. We, as in my parents, drove a Ford pick-up with a bench seat and I fell asleep before we got to their house. My dad must have decided to park right in front so he could see me from my grandparents front room because as I woke up and found myself alone, my dad was right out to the truck to assure me that I was not alone. I remember talking to him and asked him why he cared so much for me and looked after me so. He replied that this is what fathers did. The took care of and helped prepare me for life. When I asked him what he got out of it, he told me that when I grow up and have kids of my own, I was to repay him by caring for my kids. This was my first understanding of ‘pay it forward”.
In college, I took a basic psychology course with a young and energetic professor. In this class, I learned that my son, for the first few years at least, was my responsibility. But as he got older, the responsibility slowly transitioned from me to him until he was 18 years old where he would be totally responsible for his own actions. It was my job, as a father, to make sure he understood what was required from him. That I was his male roll model just as my father had been for me. I like to equate that I can weave a little of myself into my sons tapestry of life and that by doing so, since my father weaved of himself into my tapestry of life, my son would be influenced by my father as well.
Fast forward a few years and I was a newly wed at the age of 22 with a kid shortly on the way. I was a married man in love with my wife, but mentally hadn’t transitioned into a full adult yet. Then, with the birth of my son and the responsibility that went with that, I started to slowly and fully appreciate what my father had done for me. As I saw my son, I saw that it was my job as a father to protect him and prepare him for life as my father had done for me.
Genesis 2:24 reads “
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
As a Christian, I believe God, the father of mankind which includes woman, is the ultimate father. By creating woman from his own creation, Adam, and choosing the rib which is in the middle of Adam so as to make Eve an equal to Adam. ( If God had made Eve from Adams head, that would have made her superior to Adam. If God had mad Eve from Adams foot, that would have made her inferior but making her from his rib not only signified equality in the two but Eve always had a part of Adam which made the two truly a pair, to which God called her Adams helpmate)
Now, as God is the ultimate father, like any father trying to protect his children, he set up some rules to live by. Yes, the ten commandments but many others which were meant to protect his children so that they could be safer and happier. (Notice that I did not say safe and healthy because life has its own set of dangers and challenges). The 10 commandments is the equivelent of kindergarten rules but as you read the bible, you graduate to more serious life rules all meant to make us better people, better Gods children and bring us closer to our creator.
Nobody likes to be judged. As a kid in school, nobody likes those red marks on our homework indicating that we were wrong. Sometimes my homework had so many red marks that it looked like a chicken walked thru red paint then did a waltz on my homework. But the teacher wasn’t trying to be mean, she was trying to teach me/us all what was right and wrong. Mrs. Ide in 6th grade was trying to teach us all proper sentance structure for writting. We did not have auto spell correct back then, nor Google.
So what is the reason for eliminating or damning the Creator, God? Well, God has a set of rules which judges people. “Thou shalt not…” is not a suggestion, it is Gods law. Don’t steal. Stealing deprives the rightful owner the right to enjoy what is rightfully theirs. It also judges you as a thief. A wrong doer. Someone who has broken the law. You are judged by God. So, if you eliminate God, you avoid his judgement, in your mind. If you can convince many people that God is not real therefore his laws arent reasonable, then you avoid judgement by people. Then you can feel better about yourself and the choices that you have made.
What is worse, stealing or getting caught stealing? If you only feel guilty by getting caught, then you were not brought up to understand the law. As a 4th grader, I stole a magnet. It was a horseshoe magnet that I stole from a fellow student. I was confronted by him and I covered my guilt with a lie. I had stolen something that was not mine. I knew I was judged not only by the student and his friends, but by God. I had done wrong. How much better would I had felt if I thought God did not exist and that it was ok to steal that magnet.
That is why some people hate God and those that follow his teachings in the Bible. They hate being judged. They want to be accepted by us for doing what we know is wrong.
Now, fathers are a strong, or should be, influence on our childrens life. The nuclear family is proven to create a more stable family environment. Manking around the globe and throught history has known it. That is not to say that a single mother can’t do a good job raising a family, but it is much harder without a partner. Same goes for a single father. He has a much harder job without a help mate. Children also need what a man and woman bring to a family. Men and women bring differences to the family and our children need those differences to grow up balanced.
Many of the problems we see today stem from a lack of family leadership and good family values. When I see someone abusing drugs, they are trying to fill a void in their life that theythink the drugs will fill but it is a trap that pulls you in and wont let you leave. It is a ‘high’ that is only temporary, then you ‘crash’ leaving you to once again feel a void in your life.
Any addiction is our way to fill a void we feel in ourselves. Addiction to TV, not the occational viewing but the addiction to watch all the time, attempts to fill a void of socializing with others. Alcohol addiction, not the occasional drink but the desire to dink until drunk, likewise is an attept to fill a void or avoid mental pain.
Look at the LGBTQ movement. There was a time not too long ago that it was not socially accepted to be a homosexual. Gays and lesbians had to live life while hiding their lifestyle because it was not socially accepted. The term ‘closet homosexual’ refered to someone that was hiding their homosexuality for fear of social judgement. Rock Hudson, the Hollywood actor, was such a person. He hid his homosexuality for fear of loosing his standing as a male sex symbol. After all, he had co-starred with famous female costars like Doris Day. He would have lost the ability to act and loose his job. But recently, the LGBTQ movement has become militant. They do not like to be judged, so many of the members reject God because of the judgement of God:
“Do not practice homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman. It is a detestable sin.”
“If a man practices homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman, both men have committed a detestable act. They must both be put to death, for they are guilty of a capital offense.”
Romans 1:26 “Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.”
Gods judgement. They don’t like being judged so they reject the judgement of God and others. They are at war with God, his judgement and those that follow Gods teachings.
Likewise, fathers and strong male role models are targeted. When was the last time you saw a Hollywood movie with a strong male rolee model, let alone one that is a Christian? Woman are shown to be strong yet men are generally bumbling clowns. ‘King of Queens’, ‘Murphy Brown’ ‘Rosanne’ there just isn’t a current John Wayne character in Hollywood America right now.
Look at what the American government has done. By providing financial support for single women with kids, they have basically told men that they are not responsible for their procreating activities. The more kids a single woman has, the more government financial aid she gets. The thought of some was ‘I need more money, I’d better have another kid’. But look at the damage that this has created. These kids of single woman households are missing a strong male roll model to teach them how to be a man and husband. They join gangs in an attempt to fill the void in their lives. They have no father and I don’t remember seeing alot of gang members goint to church on Sunday morning.
God, godly men, nuclear families, fathers and christians are under attack. Can you see it now?
To my father, thank you for loving me enough that I knew right from wrong. For preparing me for life and weaving yourself into the tapestry of my life. For letting me make my own choices and making me live with the consequences. For teaching me to be a man. You are a good roll model.